Light my (OUR) Fire!!

December 31st, 2014

As I added firewood to the embers this morning of this last day of the year and first day of the rest of our lives, I realize that one log won’t do it.  If I only add one log to the embers the fire  won’t blaze and in fact, if I add two logs but don’t put them close together the fire won’t last very long.

We can accomplish so much more working together.  Mediation is one of many effective ways to accomplish much more.

With two logs in the fire, it is blazing but I’m going to add another log and the fire will really blaze!!

Let’s make a new years resolution to work together and to spend the rest of our lives adding logs to the fire of cooperation, problem solving, and LOVE.  May we remember that we can even love our enemies and be loving to ourselves simultaneously.

The fire is dieing down a little.  I will add a log now!!  Please add a log for you and me.

The fire still wasn’t blazing!  I rearranged the logs. I notice two logs were wet.  That is, not very ready to cooperate.  I also noticed I had the logs packed too tight.  With no room for oxygen, the fire is strangled.  Certainly people need a little breathing space.  Eventually I got the fire blazing and saw the beautiful multicolored fire.

From Nowhere but Home by Liza Palmer

December 30th, 2014

I think as I get older I begin to ask questions about what it’s all about, why we are here, and what it is I’m searching for. And then Neil deGrasse Tyson goes and says it way better than I could ever imagine: “We are all connected to each other biologically, to the earth chemically, and to the rest of the universe atomically. That’s kinda cool! That makes me smile and I actually feel quite large at the end of that.” This life is about connectivity. People. Love. Period.

End of Old Year….On to New Year

December 29th, 2014

Steve (my friend) and I have often recognized as we agonize over some past event, “It’s hard not to be grateful!!!”.  We actually laugh at ourselves as one of us realizes we are ready to end our complaining, and says “It’s hard not to be grateful!”  Of course, it is usually me (Bob) since I’m healthier, better, and more grateful than Steve!!! I choose to be grateful as I look over the past year.

I wish a Happy New Year to all people!!!!  That is, I wish for joy realizing that the opposite of joy is depression.   Furthermore, I will be depressed if I equate myself as no more than a body.

PS to Steve:  I hope you realize I can reject any response to this post, so you will have to use your utmost discretion in your response.

Telling our Story

December 27th, 2014

“It know there are events we refuse to acknowledge, tragedies we steer clear of, facts we deny at our peril, fictions we entertain to deceive ourselves”. Source: “The Family” by David Laskin, 2013

Feeling Safe

December 18th, 2014

On the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person: having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them out.  Just as they are–chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away.    Dinah Maria (Mulock) Craig, 1826-1887

Problem Solving

January 31st, 2012

“You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.” –Albert Einstein

Emotional Health

November 26th, 2011

The Criteria of Emotional Maturity by William C. Menninger, M.D.

  • The ability to deal constructively with reality
  • The capacity to change
  • A relative freedom from symptoms that are produced by tensions and anxieties
  • The capacity to find more satisfaction in giving than receiving
  • The capacity to relate to other people in a consistent manner with mutual satisfaction and helpfulness
  • The capacity to sublimate, to direct one’s instinctive hostile energy into creative and constructive outlets
  • The capacity to love

Couple Stressors

October 11th, 2011

The top 5 stressors for couples: (Source: based on 20,000 couples who completed a customized version of the PREPARE/ENRICH  Marriage Course):

Dating couples:  job, feeling emotionally upset, inadequate income, your partner, too much work at house;
Engaged Couples:   job, financial concerns, cost of wedding, lack of exercise, lack of sleep;
Married Couples:  spouse, job, feeling emotionally upset, inadequate income, too much to do around house;

Data shows women report slightly higher stress levels than men.  Men & women report slightly different sources of stress.  Many couples are not aware of their partner’s source of stress.  Data suggest all men in all stages stress about jobs, finances, and their partner.  Women report “too much to do around the house” in addition to citing the above.  Feeling emotionally upset makes the top 5 for both men and women in the dating and married stages of a relationship, but does not make the top 5 for engaged couples.

What results do you see?

April 1st, 2011

The content of your thoughts and personal beliefs can be proven by a single indicator–your current results.  Quote from James A. Ray

Ten powerful insights to make peace with your life

March 23rd, 2011


What do you think of the insights??  I especially like the last one that suggests we will find peace if we are truly looking for peace.