Archive for the ‘Therapy’ Category

Believe what you see??

Saturday, June 25th, 2016

It is impossible not to believe what you see, but it is equally impossible to see what you do not believe.  From Course in Miracles Chapter 11: God or the Ego VI.

Telling our Story

Saturday, December 27th, 2014

“It know there are events we refuse to acknowledge, tragedies we steer clear of, facts we deny at our peril, fictions we entertain to deceive ourselves”. Source: “The Family” by David Laskin, 2013

Feeling Safe

Thursday, December 18th, 2014

On the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person: having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them out.  Just as they are–chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away.    Dinah Maria (Mulock) Craig, 1826-1887

Problem Solving

Tuesday, January 31st, 2012

“You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.” –Albert Einstein

Emotional Health

Saturday, November 26th, 2011

The Criteria of Emotional Maturity by William C. Menninger, M.D.

  • The ability to deal constructively with reality
  • The capacity to change
  • A relative freedom from symptoms that are produced by tensions and anxieties
  • The capacity to find more satisfaction in giving than receiving
  • The capacity to relate to other people in a consistent manner with mutual satisfaction and helpfulness
  • The capacity to sublimate, to direct one’s instinctive hostile energy into creative and constructive outlets
  • The capacity to love

Couple Stressors

Tuesday, October 11th, 2011

The top 5 stressors for couples: (Source: based on 20,000 couples who completed a customized version of the PREPARE/ENRICH  Marriage Course):

Dating couples:  job, feeling emotionally upset, inadequate income, your partner, too much work at house;
Engaged Couples:   job, financial concerns, cost of wedding, lack of exercise, lack of sleep;
Married Couples:  spouse, job, feeling emotionally upset, inadequate income, too much to do around house;

Data shows women report slightly higher stress levels than men.  Men & women report slightly different sources of stress.  Many couples are not aware of their partner’s source of stress.  Data suggest all men in all stages stress about jobs, finances, and their partner.  Women report “too much to do around the house” in addition to citing the above.  Feeling emotionally upset makes the top 5 for both men and women in the dating and married stages of a relationship, but does not make the top 5 for engaged couples.

What results do you see?

Friday, April 1st, 2011

The content of your thoughts and personal beliefs can be proven by a single indicator–your current results.  Quote from James A. Ray

Are you “too sensitive”?

Tuesday, November 16th, 2010

Have you ever been told you are “too sensitive”?

This is not a “flaw” as some would infer, but most likely you have a highly receptive and highly sensitive nervous system.  In psychological language, this is called “HSP” (highly sensitive person) traits. This is typical for about 15-20% of the population, and as a child, your temperament may have been called “shy” or “fussy”. You may notice that loud voices, bright lights, changes, nervousness, hyper-awareness, etc. combine to create a life that requires self-awareness and self-care.  HSP is “normal” but different than the majority of the population.  Often, stress, trauma, and fear register more strongly for your nervous system.

What was / is your role in your family of origin?

Wednesday, July 14th, 2010

Home is where your story begins.

What does this mean to you?  Our past experiences in our families influence our present relationships. The common roles taken or prescribed in families include the “hero”, the “scapegoat”, the “lost child”, and the “mascot”.  If you recognize one or more of these roles, ask yourself (and a good friend) if it influences you today, and whether it is helpful or not.

Barbara’s Comments

Saturday, June 19th, 2010

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